Overcoming shy nature in school/college| How to reduce shyness to unlock more opportunities.

How many times you have felt that if you would have known some person better or if you would have known each other then, some of your important and complex problems would have been solved very easily? Frankly speaking, in my case, it has happened many times.

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It does not mean that you are seeking to help or you are a weak person! Actually, all of us need help sometimes. There is no bad thing in asking for help from the person you know who can help you easily, cause sometimes things that are difficult for us are not always difficult for others as well.

One more thing I would like to emphasize here, that when we are shy, We do not make so many contacts, resulting that person has also to make the distance from us. You have to believe that you also have some uniqueness, you may also be important to someone or somebody, People will give you also respect, Just keep these things in mind and start the conversation.

Today I am listing some tips which can really help you to deal with shyness. So, let's start!

• Learn Etiquettes: This is very important to know the right way before doing something in order to get the best possible result. That's why you should learn that how to talk to people and how to start the conversation and also that how to impress some people depending on some situation.

For doing that you can see some of my favorite videos by clicking here. There are also various videos present on the internet. see them and learn.

• Be social: This is the biggest weakness of shy people that they spend most of the time alone. If you will live most of the time alone then definitely you will find many ways to adapt that situation but that will be taking you far from your social life which is very important to removing shy nature.

So, do not feel awkward to chill with friends, going to watch movies and attending parties in the limit. It will help you to gain the attention of your group.

• Spend sometimes with people: Another problem with shy guys are, that they hardly talk to the people. They only talk to their parents and family members. Initially you may feel awkward, but believe me, it happens with all of us for some certain people.
• Do not hesitate to initiate the conversation: You will have to believe that it happens to everyone. The person that appears very confident is not confident living alone, rather he has become this by meeting to different people. Sometimes he has to make fun of himself too, And there are not any bad things in that if your friends make fun of you sometimes for fun. 

In case you want to be safe, then you can find some good topic to initiate the conversation with the person then the conversation will go on self.

On contrary, you can also do fun with your friends. So, do not worry whether they accept your friendship or not, you will be benefited in both the ways.

• Create high-pressure zones: This is my favorite. Creating high-pressure zone means, there are always some activities which are very useful to us, but we do not dare to do that. We hesitate to do that. we think of the people that what would they think if I fail etc.

You can choose smartly those activities that are having very less risk of failure like the sports from your interest, or something from your passion. It will help you to meet different people and as days will pass, your shyness will be removed automatically.

• Join any committee of your school college: If you join any committee of your school or college that organizes the programs in the college, then you will unconsciously meet a number of people. You will have to talk to them and after sometimes you will have experience of talking to tons of people and that will result in the zero shyness!
• It's okay to party sometimes: Look, I know that this is a big deal to attend parties for shy people. But you will also have to accept that this is also a very good platform to meet people and remove shyness.

Attend parties. If not possible to sing and dance, then you can go and just talk to people you meet there. This will definitely help you in this problem.

• Understand your uniqueness: We all have some good qualities. Remove this thought from your mind that the person you will talk is better than you. Because you have also something which he does not have. You may have qualities as a student like- having good notes, having good knowledge of some subjects, you belong to some good family, you belong to some local area, Maybe you know some teacher well.

So, find your uniqueness and believe that you are also good. It will give you self-confidence and power to stand among the group of people.

• Help people if they need you: Helping people is not directly help you but if you genuinely help your friend then they will also help you. It will make a strong relationship between you and your friends. And slowly you will be so connected with them so that you can ask for anything from your friends. But try to help them first before asking for help.
• Be responsible and little funny too: People like funny people. But if you are funny only then you will be like a joker of the group. So, to get the respect from your group also, you will have to be responsible as well.

Now, you will ask responsible? People like to talk and make a friend to those people who are serious about their Career and profession. If you are a good student then, comparatively you will have to do less hard work to talk to people.

• Do not be so desperate: Some people are so lost in getting the attention that they do not even understand that other people are not liking him. They insult him and sometimes ignore him as well. I will personally advise you not to talk to those people. 

In case those people are important to you, then you can talk to those people to be a part of that. Another vise please understand that why people are doing such behavior to yourself.

• Observe the People you want to become like: We always want to become like some people around yourself. You should at least observe him/her that how he talks, how he initiates and so much little things about him. It will help you to learn some communication skill.

You can also watch an interview of your mentors to be motivated and inspire to be like them. I will recommend you to watch the seminars of the Sandeep Maheshwari.

• Look-alike: "Jaisa desh waisa bhesh" this is the famous Hindi phrase. It means here is, sometimes we have to be the person we want to talk. Whether you like that or not. If you want to get your work done, then you should adopt this technique.

Be anything in your life but never stick to anything and continuously grow up if you want to be the happy and successful person.

• Do your homework: Sometimes we hesitate because we dare to fail, we hesitate because we have never done that before, or we hesitate because we make possibilities depending upon our past experiences.

For example- If you have to take the signature of your registrar then you will have to prepare all the papers, you have to take care of your dress and timing as well as some other thing depending on the situation. If you go unprepared then definitely you will have to face the problem and may me you may not get your work done.

At last, I will say for the shy people that "Never take anything Personal" because nothing is permanent in this world. "ALL THOSE PERSON WHOM YOU ARE SHYING YOU FROM, ONE DAY THEY WILL SHY FROM YOU WHEN YOU WILL BECOME SUCCESSFUL"
So, Just try your best to make contact with good people and forget about the result. Even if you are not successful in talking, then This is their loss, not yours.

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